Wednesday, December 8, 2021
The Valley of Dry Bones
Tuesday, October 5, 2021
The White Savior Complex
It has been 8 years since I first stepped foot on Honduran soil. 19-year-old me boldly stepped out, naïve but truly led by God, to reach people who I thought were in need of my love. And some of them were. There are people everywhere who need to be shown love, and God has definitely led me to some of those people during my visits to Central America. Yet, I also quickly learned that Hondurans have a love of their own to give. Mark 16:15 says to go into all the world and make disciples, so we know it's good to travel for ministry, but with the right motives. I have now been to Honduras ten times and Guatemala once. The way I view the world has changed greatly over the years, especially the last year, and it's time to talk about it.
This is a compilation of all of my current thoughts about white saviorism. That is, white Americans and other people of privilege acting like they are saving the world through fairly small acts that sometimes do more harm than good. This post is everything I see on both sides. The purpose is to help you process similar thoughts in your own life and ministry and to give us a place to talk about it as we strive to do better. People of all races and backgrounds, please feel free to comment on this post or contact me privately. I am a 27 year old white female in America who definitely doesn’t have it all figured out; but I’d like to use this post to start the conversation and explain why I haven't written in a while. While child sponsorship still is and (God willing) always will be one of the most important areas of my life, I have learned a lot and realized how much I needlessly over shared about some personal information related to my sponsored children. I plan to start blogging about child sponsorship again, but in way that is more honorable to everyone involved. I want to tell the stories of how God led me to the children I sponsor and ideas of things to send to your sponsored children, while still respecting the privacy of their own stories just like I would for a friend or relative. These are real humans, not just a story to tell. The goal of An Omer of Manna will now be to share ideas with other sponsors who I communicate with on sponsor forums and to update my close friends and family on my life and ministry, not to gain an outside following.
As a disclaimer, the photos in this post are just some of my favorites from visits with my sponsored children in Honduras. They are not necessarily photos of the people I'm talking about in the post.
Where to start....
That being said, we MUST understand the reason our visits are a blessing isn’t because we’re from the US, white, or comparably wealthy. We MUST understand that if there are Christians in the communities we are visiting, they are equally if not more capable of ministering to the people there as we are. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t go. There are many reasons to travel for ministry, which I’ll get to in a minute. But it’s problematic to show up in another country or community, do a basic construction project that we’re less qualified to do than the locals are, sing a few Vacation Bible School songs that the locals could have sung to their own children, snap pictures with some cute kids, and leave feeling like those people’s lives were changed just because an American existed in their community for a few days. No. That’s gross.
I’d like to title this next paragraph you are not necessarily the answer to the problem just because you are American. I saw a video blog recently from a couple who was living in foreign country for work and saw a young girl standing on the side of the road asking for money. The woman in the video said as soon as she saw the girl, she decided she wanted to adopt her. Seemingly before even knowing if the girl had parents or relatives. It turned out she didn't have parents, but had an adult brother who was raising her. Rather than supporting this family so the child could stay with her relatives, the couple instantly decided to adopt her- basically suggesting they are the best thing for her because of their wealth or race. The woman in the video even proudly said, "she looks at me like a savior." The girl's brother agreed to send her with this couple, probably out of desperation to give her a better life. Now, I agree that the girl needed support. Young girls should not be walking the streets in gang-ridden areas begging for money to survive, no matter what culture they live in or how normalized it is. And I do support adoption if the child has no biological relatives who are willing and able to provide a safe and loving environment (sometimes with assistance at first), and when it's legal and well thought out. Just trust me when I say that was not the case here. The couple admitted in the video that they never even discussed it with each other. This "adoption", which never became legal, lasted less than 4 months before the girl was no longer with the "adopted" family. I don't know whether they gave her up or whether they weren't allowed to keep her. In their video blog, they simply stopped mentioning her at all and soon moved back to their home country without her. I believe this couple had good intentions, but the more I've educated myself recently, the more my heart hurts for the girl and the damage that was likely done. I find myself wishing there was something I could do, yet knowing the last thing this girl needs is another American coming in trying to save the day. Sadly, the couple revealed the child’s location (at least where she was before she stayed with them) in the video, so I do know where she likely is. Not just the country, but the exact neighborhood. If anyone has suggestions regarding if/how to connect this girl and her brother with actual (preferably local to her) support without being just another good intentioned American who makes things worse, please let me know!
I’ve been thinking about how it can be problematic and even racist to assume someone needs help simply because of the country they live in. When I sent backpacks full of school supplies and gifts to my sponsored children through the Manna 4 Lempira program last year (which is a benefit of the program their parents sign them up for so I feel fine about that), I also sent 2 large boxes full of gifts and supplies for a family nearby who I grew close to during visits but are not part of any program. To be honest, I didn’t even know if they needed assistance. These gifts included school supplies, clothing, toiletries, bibles, toys, and more. The family members, a mama and 2 tween girls, were thrilled. The mother even sent me a video of the girls opening their gifts and screaming with joy over every little thing. They never gave me a reason to believe they felt anything negative about it. Still, watching the video made me think. There was one part of the video where one of the girls held up one of her gifts to show her mom and exclaimed, “how beautiful mami!”. And I couldn’t stop thinking of the mama behind the camera, probably wishing she had been given the opportunity to provide these things for her daughters. The worst part is, it’s possible she could have. I never even asked. I assumed they needed it literally just because they lived in Honduras. I don’t fully know what the answer is here, because I’d feel even worse if the family sees me sending to others and not them if they are in need. So far, I’ve made sure to connect with the mom and continually thank her for allowing me to come alongside her to mentor her children. I also sent her a Mother’s Day card saying these things. This year, I stuck to what I could fit into 1 backpack per child instead of 2 large boxes. It's a start. Suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thankfully, the year I sent a lot was the first year of the pandemic when almost everyone in the world was in need of support of some kind, which probably helped it to not feel so targeted.
Last, I want to say most of the subjects I touched on in this post probably have exceptions. If you are led by God to do one of the things I painted in a negative light such as sending a giant box of gifts to someone who may not need it....please do what you are led to do as long as it doesn't directly go against the bible! This post is to give you things to take into consideration in your ministry, but God knows more than we do and may know the person needs the gift you have to give.
Thursday, January 10, 2019
Purple Flowers
As I meditated on this verse, I wrote a list of women (and one man) whose faith I wanted to mimic. The list included my pastor's wife, three women in the child sponsorship ministry, one of my best friends, and a popular online influencer whose posts always point me to the love of Christ.
Friday, September 28, 2018
The Impact of Child Sponsorship
While I think it's great to sponsor a child just because you have the desire to do so, I already sponsor so many that at this point, I was only adding more if I had a specific leading from God. When this girl smiled at me, though, I didn't even think about it. I walked up to her (with my translator) and asked if I could be her sponsor. My friend caught a picture of this precious moment.
Friday, March 30, 2018
Holding On to Hope
Sometimes, you stop blogging for a year and a half- not because you have nothing to say, but because you have way too much to say and no idea which direction to go with it.
It feels strange to be sharing a story that starts with grief while I'm currently in a season of joy. But as we approach two years since this story started, I realize that God has done so much, and it is time.
My older sister, Amy, passed away in 2016. With our 16 year age difference, Amy was a sister, a best friend, and a second mom all rolled into one. She shared my love for children and was a foster and adoptive parent along with her husband. She also shared my love for letter writing and made handmade cards for everyone she knew. She was hilarious and the life of every family gathering.
Although my sister was born with a congenital heart defect and had been in full-on heart failure for over a year, these things had happened before and she always bounced back. Somehow, I never expected this time to be any different. I'd prayed and believed for Amy's healing; and I trust God even though it didn't happen how I had prayed for...even in the moments when I don't understand. As my pastor says: I don't know why this happened, but I know that healing is still the nature of God. Shortly after Amy passed away, I was in bed one night praying, but feeling extremely distracted. I felt like prayer wasn't changing anything. My spirit knew this wasn't true, but all I could see in front of me were the prayers seemingly left unanswered. In the midst of my pain and uncertainty that night, God took my mind off of myself and reminded me of a little boy who I'd seen while in Honduras with our child sponsorship program over a year earlier- and who I hadn't seen or thought of since. I remembered that he had a heart condition like my sister's, and I was compelled to pray for him. His name was Marcos.
At the end of my prayer, I half-heartedly added that if this boy ever needed a new sponsor, I would sponsor him in honor of Amy. I wasn't even sure why I said it, because I knew he already had a good sponsor who was very dedicated to the ministry. I now know that God was the one to place that mustard-seed-sized prayer in my heart that night; because the very next morning, I woke up to the news that Marcos' sponsor was not able to continue supporting him! I was stunned, but knew that God was speaking- prayer still accomplishes much, even when you can't see it. He put Marcos on my heart to pray for just a day before He already knew that prayer would be answered...just a day before He knew Marcos would need someone. I believe this was for me as much as it was for Marcos; and in a way, even Amy's story didn't stop there.
Last summer, I returned to Honduras to visit my ever-growing group of sponsored children and minister in their communities. At long last, I met Marcos and his family for the first time since becoming his sponsor!
In addition to sponsoring Marcos, I sponsored a sweet girl named Angie on New Year's Day 2017, as a way of declaring God's goodness over the new year after a crazy 2016. I met Angie this past summer, and she was pure joy!
I had also wanted to sponsor a little girl with my sister's name, and hadn't been able to find one. Right around the one year anniversary of her passing, I got a letter in the mail from a child who I had never agreed to sponsor, from a different sponsorship organization that I no longer even work with. It turned out that they had mistakenly placed me on a list for a new sponsored child, and they asked if I would like to keep her. Yes, you guessed it, her name was Amy (well, Aime, but....details.) And later that same week, a little girl named Amy in our program who I had met several times and loved lost her sponsor, so she became mine as well.
Thursday, November 3, 2016
What it Means to Be Glorified
"...and these whom He justified, He also glorified." -Romans 8:30
What does it mean to glorified? What does it mean to be set apart? To be adopted? To be pulled from the mire and have your feet set firmly on a rock? Romans 8:30 is my life verse, because it tells me that it doesn't matter where I come from or who I come from, but only to Whom I now belong. I always try to instill in my children that they can be transformed and be anyone they want to be, within the will of God. They can be set apart for the new life He has for them and be the first of many Godly generations. To be glorified means to be filled with His beauty and purpose, and that they definitely are.
When I think of being set apart from the world, my mind flashes to three faces in the mountains of Western Honduras.
Hearing these words, I felt like I was hearing my own story. I was also raised in a Catholic home and was the first in my family to become a born again Christian, but not until age 16. This decision was often not understood or well-received by those around me. Seeing such small children make the decision to follow God completely on their own, and with such joy, amazed me. I instantly felt protective of them. I went over and made friends with the girls, who appeared unsure at best. I asked their names- Irma, Yessenia, and Kenia. I took that first serious picture of them and told them how beautiful they were. Then, their amazing smiles emerged.
Tuesday, December 1, 2015
Manna 4 Lempira
Below is my Manna 4 Lempira sponsored child. Her name is Carmen, and she is pure evidence of God's leading in my life. I saw her picture on the list of newly registered children that our missionary partners in Honduras just sent over last week and I instantly fell for her. I knew she was the one I wanted to sponsor.
Even crazier, later on in the day as I was looking through some old pictures from my trip to Honduras almost two years ago (before we'd even started the program), I found this... a picture of me with a random little girl who I'd met at a feeding center. It was Carmen! I have little to no memory of this picture, or of meeting her almost two years earlier...but there we were, together. I am so excited to know that when this picture was taken, God was smiling- knowing our story wouldn't end there. And in just a few weeks when I return to Honduras, I will get to see Carmen again, and well as her sister Kendi who I've been writing to!
I also sponsored a second girl named Evelyn through the program, but she moved away and stopped attending before we were able to meet. Many more children are still waiting for sponsors. Could you provide hope for one of those children this Christmas season?















